The ‘inner critic’
The ‘inner critic’ is that negative voice in your head that criticises, judges and attempts to sabotage your life experience. In challenging situation’s this voice seems louder highlighting your insecurities, fears and doubts about yourself.
The ‘inner critic’ is only ever really a problem when you listen to it for too long and engage with the story. Most people have a story that they identify with that the ‘inner critic’ uses to play in the mind.
This voice is normally triggered by something that is happening to you now that resonates with certain themes from your past. When you start to believe the ‘inner critic’ and mistake its point of view as your own, life becomes very challenging and serious.
How could I be so stupid?
When you interact and believe the ‘inner critic’, you take on board these self-critical thoughts. When triggered, the ‘inner critic’ uses your memory to generate similar thoughts, feelings and behaviour’s that have all happened in the past.
The Triangle of Perception
The ‘Triangle of perception’ shows how your own judgement can make you see situations in different ways. The image below shows how your perception or point of view can alter how you deal with a problem. The three sides of the triangle with the eye in the middle show:
When faced with adversity, your action or behaviour can trigger the ‘inner critic’. Your thoughts become self-critical.
Emotions relate to how you feel, so when your thoughts are self-critical, you feel bad about yourself.
When you judge yourself, you are believing your ‘inner critic’. This narrows your focus or perception. Think about it, the ‘inner critic’ is only a way of judging yourself.
If you catch yourself being self-critical, you need to retrain your ‘inner critic’.
Retrain Your inner critic
The ‘inner critic’ does not solve problems, it just makes them seem worse. When you recognise your thoughts have become self-critical, step back from the problem. See what happens when you ignore these thoughts.
Accept that challenges are part of life and choose to be fair to yourself. Be constructive and look for a solution to resolving your problems. Remember, achieving your goals can be sabotaged by your own self-critical thoughts. This is why you don’t want to dwell there too long.
Many people struggle with achieving their goals because they listen to their ‘inner critic’. Having goals and aspiration’s is what gives your life meaning and purpose. Don’t give up on your dreams!
If you catch yourself thinking “I can’t do that !” or ” I could never afford that!”, recognise these thoughts as old limiting belief’s and look for more realistic and positive ideas.
Fear will always try to protect you, but fear of a temporary setback will only prevent you from moving forward. Challenge your ‘inner critic’ and dare to be different. Instead of narrowing your focus, be open and receptive to new ideas.
This is the way to enhance your perception and retrain your mind.